Weekend Coffee Share. Out of my Head, and onto the Page.


Welcome to my Weekend Coffee Share, hosted by Allison at eclecticali.wordpress.com

What a lovely weekend it is! Here in the southeast U.S., it will be close to 100 degrees today! I took Bixby to the dog park Saturday, and we could not even last an hour.
There were plenty of dogs, and he loved that, but they all where panting heavily in no time in that heat. At least he drank a lot of water! The dog park is always a treat for me as well; I love to watch dogs play.

I am approaching my birthday this coming week. It makes me look back and ponder my life and choices while appreciating all that has been given me. I have been blessed in so many ways.

This throwback photo is of me in April, 1996, either a week before or the day before I gave birth to my son. All of this talk of women’s reproductive rights gets me thinking. My son was certainly planned and wanted. For those who had a child that was not planned, I honor you as well. No two experiences with motherhood are the same. How different could the pregnancy experience be for someone who is raped or does not have access to birth control? We do not need to move backward with women’s rights, or the rights of any other sort of person! I suppose I’ll be accused of being political. Posting certain things on my Facebook can lead to arguments from some of my staunchly GOP friends. I have some in my family, too. I love them no matter what and try to disagree amicably.

All of this reflection has led to me setting up a separate Facebook to share some poems and past journal entries about my experiences as a woman. Oddly, if I try to boost any of those posts or the page, FB wants an extra authentication process, meaning I will likely be put on a list somewhere. I feel so important now! I am tired of holding my tongue just because I am a girl, and I have never picketed for women’s rights. I am a firm believer that the pen is mightier than the sword.

As part of this whole process, I have considered writing some books under a pen name, and do not always feel comfortable sharing certain things under my own name that involve subverting the paradigm or opening eyes to my point of view, so I’m trying it out to see how it goes.

My most recent post was a poem entitled “Sorry,” which is all about the way many of us have been raised to be sorry for so many things, when we just needed to express our emotions or we didn’t want a hug from Dad’s scary old man friend. You know, taught to be sorry when we didn’t live up to others’ expectations of how we should behave as a girl.

I do think this may lead into a book someday, but I have no other details. I am still working on my WIP, Malachi, and I am considering a summer trip to the place which is the setting of this book. Of course, this means I need to get to planning, and I am so behind on that. I can do this!

Why was she always so sorry? (Image via Pixabay).

Thank you for stopping by for my Weekend Coffee Share! I know I have mostly been sharing about what’s going on in my head, but hey, I am doing something about it, because my thoughts don’t eat me up anymore. Have a great week!

Author: PamelaS.Canepa, Writing and Living

I am a writer who also teaches reading and writing, currently. In 2016, I self-published an e-book and its sequel, and I am learning the art of self-promotion. I published a full-length time travel novel as of 6/16/17 and its sequel in the summer of 2018. Life is a trip, and writing is the best escape for me! Learn about my award-winning sci-fi novel, Detours in Time, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0711ZW6XF Visit me at https://about.me/pamela.schloessercanepa

3 thoughts on “Weekend Coffee Share. Out of my Head, and onto the Page.”

  1. Hi Pamela,
    Yes, you do know how to grab a politically sensitive topic and shake it around to show you’re not afraid of it, all the time being respectful of the difficulty in finding a well reasoned position on the topic.

    Count me as one of those GOP folk who likely have a opposing opinion, but I’ll bet we agree on the following:
    1) This is a tough topic that has been heavily politicized for the sake of one party or the other and the media that thrives on our arguments.
    2) Wise and well meaning folks on both sides can disagree on exactly when “life begins” but moral people should agree that moments before or even after birth – it is definitely a human baby that deserves only our best efforts at helping them survive. If the mother somehow needs help, a loving culture would get it for her and support her through a tough situation, but infanticide should never be an option.
    3) Conception and pregnancy and birth control education should be uniformly available, but society should have some say when men and women make irresponsible choices that create innocent lives.
    4) It does take two to make a baby and just because the man does not carry the fetus, should not release him from responsibility for caring (somehow) for the child he helped create.
    5) our current system of essentially stranding a mother with an unwanted pregnancy is shameful. I just don’t know what the right way to correct this is.
    6) The Christian Church often fails to assist and love a woman who finds herself in a tough pregnancy. The first thing a woman with an unwanted pregnancy should sense from us is grace and safety, but too often receives condemnation if she does not decide to do things our way. Somehow, this has become one of those sins we struggle to demonstrate the forgiveness of Christ which treats all sin as sin that is forgiven as the main point of our salvation. We’re working on this, but answers on our side are tough too. This really is one of those matters how we love the sinner (who just commits a different sin than I do each day) is so out of balance with how Christ sees us.

    Okay – my soapbox is starting to yield to either the weight of my arguments or, perhaps, my physical weight. Either way, I need to get off of it now.

    Your experiences, opinions and conclusions are always going to be of value to me. You have both a good head and a strong heart Pamela.



    1. Thank you for your response, Gary. You have totally shunned me another point of view, and I value that. Still, I most wholeheartedly agree with you on points number 4 and number 5, and I think they need to be fixed first before the proposed Law changes as of late. Thank you for no judgment or name-calling. Our nation needs more like you, as, of course there cannot only be one political party. Have a great week, my friend.


  2. That’s great Pamela. I make no claim on extra special wisdom but I try to operate from dispassionate principals that themselves are based on solid facts. My sister was raped decades ago and I had to think some of this through to find a place from which to advise my family. I was pretty young and dumb, but we muddled through, and I’ve tried to progress a wise position on the question ever since. I bet facts in your hands will be used wisely. Thanks for your kind words.


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