Weekend Coffee Share, A New Year



Welcome to my Weekend Coffee Share, hosted by Antoinette Truglio Martin.  2020 is here, and I am not looking back!  That is, unless Facebook memories remind me of a nugget of wisdom that is still pertinent today.  For example:

Thanks to Facebook Memories, I can now go back to:

More nuggets of wisdom from “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero:
-“The thoughts you dwell on are those you feed and they will define your reality.”
-On no longer worrying about what others think of you: “You have no control over people’s reactions to your decisions anyway.”
-“Do things that make you lose yourself so much so that you don’t realize the long hours you’ve spent on them.” YES. I. WANT more of this because it means reading, writing, and drinking wine…or getting lost on a nature walk with my son and Bixby, which is dreadfully overdue.
-“You’d never be perfectly ready for something, so just start anyway.” I think I’m doing alright there.
– “Think, why not, instead of why.”
Disclaimer- This book was recommended by my yoga instructor, which I highly appreciate!


This past decade tested me; it was a challenge. I think I can say I rose to that challenge. So, instead of completing the phrase with my initial response (This past decade was… a train wreck), I will tell you that this past decade made me stronger and by no means did it do me in.

I will tell you how I learned who the people are that will stand by me through thick and thin. I will tell you how I learned to keep reaching for my dreams even when I felt emotionally wiped out, and that doing so replenished my spirit. Let me tell of how I never gave up, even if I needed a three day nap. I could have done things better, but hey, I did what I could with the hand that was dealt me.

I did some good things in the past decade and need to not forget that.  I gained a lot of confidence in writing and self-publishing, and I will move forward with that.  I’m still learning how best to thrive instead of just survive, by being open to learning and change. So, instead of saying “Thank God that train wreck is over,” I want to say how grateful I am for every lesson I learned, even the ones I learned the hard way, and I’m still eager to learn more.  This is the mindset I plan to embrace for this year.


So, instead of pointing out the bags under my eyes or telling me I should smile more, just go ahead and tell me a joke.  Evidently, a genuine smile or laugh does wonders for a face that rarely sleeps.  Instead of dwelling on the past I am so glad to bid farewell, I plan to dwell on my plans for tomorrow and whatever joy I can find today.

Namaste and Happy New Year!


Author: PamelaS.Canepa, Writing and Living

I am a writer who also teaches reading and writing, currently. In 2016, I self-published an e-book and its sequel, and I am learning the art of self-promotion. I published a full-length time travel novel as of 6/16/17 and its sequel in the summer of 2018. Life is a trip, and writing is the best escape for me! Learn about my award-winning sci-fi novel, Detours in Time, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0711ZW6XF Visit me at https://about.me/pamela.schloessercanepa

10 thoughts on “Weekend Coffee Share, A New Year”

  1. I love Jen Sincero – thanks for sharing some quotes. I have read both her original BAD ASS book and the money one. I am in a book club in the spring for the money one too.


  2. Compliments of the New Year !!!
    Have an awesome one… FB has a way of digging up little nuggets that have you wondering on your past brilliant flash of genius


  3. Hi Pamela. I’m sorry that my weekend got so tied up that I’m late with my second pass to the coffee share. I try to not be that one guy who posts my own essay and read those who posted earlier, then manage to forget all those who post after me, but this weekend I managed to do just that.
    I’m very pleased to hear your take on your 2019 and your resolve about 2020. You actually have always impressed me with your strength and resolve. I’m looking forward to hearing more about your writing efforts in 2020 and am hopeful that we might get to spin some magic together with my “Tales from the Teancoff” idea. Having someone as talented as you lead the effort would exceed my hopes for a strong kickoff.
    But if I can now back down and leave you with, “but no pressure. Please proceed as you see fit” just know I would really enjoy the chance to do this with you. I’ll be following your efforts regardless.
    Best wishes for an amazing 2020.


    1. Hi, Gary. Yes, I look forward to doing that but haven’t found the time yet. I will look into it soon! Winter break is over. 😦 I still haven’t caught up on sleep. However, I really enjoyed posting more short fiction on my blog during winter break and want to do that, so I will definitely look at your fiction community challenge!


  4. I am very proud of you and pray for you to always enjoy your  life……Your thoughts and views are wonderfully expressed in the beautiful writings you have published! Love you always! ~Mom~


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