Weekend Coffee Share: Viva La Independence!

Welcome to my Weekend Coffee Share, hosted by Natalie the Explorer. It was a green matcha tea day. I am being kind to my health, and I actually did some yoga with an online yoga website class. A healthy body aids a healthy mind and vice versa.

What an interesting week. On Thursday, my Newspaper Club had judging for a poetry contest that we ran during the month of April. This was my pet project. Several of the students wanted to be in on the judging, and I had two other teachers present to help with judging as well as one of their wives who is into art and poetry. I read each poem aloud, and they judged it American-Idol style. I think the kids had great fun with it, and the adults seemed to have a good time too! I showed my principal the 1st place poem the next day. She seemed pretty busy, but when I asked if she had time, she said, “I can always make time for the kids.” She was impressed by the poem as well! Winners have not been officially told yet, but I have a student who wants to do the announcing.

Also on my mind this week was how tired I’ve been. I did not sleep well for a few nights, all due to a conversation with my boyfriend last Saturday night. After dinner, he said we needed to talk. So, after a brief talk, we amicably split up. It was sort of a shock to me being brought up now; we had dated for 11 and 1/2 years, but lately, it didn’t feel much like dating. More like the old ball and chain that didn’t want to take vacations with me, didn’t agree with my bucket list, etc., etc. There’s no way he would ever accompany me to Europe. All of this also felt strange though, so soon on the heels of my son moving out.

Adjusting to this new norm could take a while, I suppose, and might be a slight challenge. Just as adjusting to daylight savings time can result in disruptions to sleep patterns, adjusting to the new norm in my social and relationship life has also done the same. Maybe an over-thinker like me can’t help it. Going back over things, wondering what I should have done differently, if I should have called it off myself sooner, if I should not have let the relationship start in the first place, etc. Yet, I feel I have accepted all of this.

Through the pandemic and shutdown, I started really throwing myself into my work. I also tried to maintain friendships with female friends, even if it was only by phone. My focus and ability to write were challenged, but I’ve done a little, and that is my personal little world that no one can take away from me. I lost the watch he gave me, so I bought my own, a nice watch…it made me feel independent and self-satisfied. Then I found his weeks later. So now I wear either one depending on the day. I think I have been moving toward accepting that the realtionship was not going to go any further and that I needed to make places for myself in this world…so I have. I feel grounded.

So, needless to say, I did not get enough sleep most of last week, just processing all of this stuff, but Thursday night, I finally slept well. Last night, I also got eight hours of sleep! I don’t expect this to be every night, but I am thankful that my brain slowed down for a while.

The best hallmark of this week, though, was my son’s twenty-fifth birthday! We went to eat Mediterranean food, one of my favorites. He had a hookah, so we all sat outside. It was cool and comfortable. There was hummus, pita bread, shish kebobs and plenty of veggies…so tasty! My mom also had a great time. I think it was a good way to celebrate that pleased everyone all around.

He seems to be doing well with his move to independence. If I text in the morning, he answers. So, I know he’s been getting up on time for work. I don’t try to call him much, as I know he won’t be talkative yet. (I haven’t given him enough alone time yet) 🙂 Acceptance seems to be my key word for the day, until I can say I am truly embracing independence, my own, my son’s, and that of all of us. Viva la independence!

Author: PamelaS.Canepa, Writing and Living

I am a writer who also teaches reading and writing, currently. In 2016, I self-published an e-book and its sequel, and I am learning the art of self-promotion. I published a full-length time travel novel as of 6/16/17 and its sequel in the summer of 2018. Life is a trip, and writing is the best escape for me! Learn about my award-winning sci-fi novel, Detours in Time, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0711ZW6XF Visit me at https://about.me/pamela.schloessercanepa

9 thoughts on “Weekend Coffee Share: Viva La Independence!”

  1. “I can always make time for the kids.” – Great attitude! Sorry about your breakup, but it sounds like it was something that will work out for both of you. Glad your son is adjusting to life on his own, and happy birthday to him. Mediterranean sounds good… I hope you have a wonderful week, and get some sleep!

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  2. Happy Independence day, I hope! It is sad when a relationship ends, but I’ve found that it’s always because God has a better one right through the door he’s holding open for me. I hope that your door is close. 🙂 Have a great week. So glad to hear your son is doing so well. 🙂

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  3. Happy birthday to your son! Glad to hear he’s doing well. Sorry about your breakup. It sounds like you’re enjoying your freedom and independence. Have a great week! #WeekendCoffeeShare

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  4. Oh Pam. I am sorry to hear about your break up. There are all kinds of ways to redefine things to explain it away, but the bottom line is that it has to hurt some and you too may well have done the right thing, but I bet the hurt remains real. For what it’s worth, I’d go with remembering the joy, the good, the growth and the fun memories you invested in and made together. Doing life together for that long must have changed you both and it is likely that just recalling the good and the things you learned that you might not have otherwise had the chance to. Still – I’m sorry for the hurt you most likely feel. Just don’t fall into thinking that it was time wasted. If all that was accomplished was some joy brought to two people and helping each other get through life, then it was not wasted.
    If I could, I’d pick up the tab for our coffee and just remind you that you do have friends who care for you.

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  5. You have every right to be tired. I know that decision was probably hard, but it seems like you have a good perspective on it all and may you remember that on hard days. I’m so glad it’s working for your son, sometimes its’ tough letting them go. Hope this week has gone better. I’ve been trying to catch up with everyone

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